Train the child's _'s interpersonal psychology of self-confidence gradually in the detail place

Train the child's _'s interpersonal psychology of self-confidence gradually in the detail place
The difference praised and encouraged lies in, the former rewards the behavior (you have accomplished! ),The latter rewards to people (I am proud of you! ). Praise, let child think, make one thing kind child make perfect, it is to diligent approval but encourage.



middot; Give children enough concerns

Try hard to find time, will accompany the child and will let him feel the attention from parents in this way. Accompany the child's time might not be very longing, only you are while surfing the Net to browse through, stop to have a chat about above two sentences to he who is wanting to talk with you; Or turn off the TV, answer a question that he puts forward; Wait a moment. Keep the exchange that is parallel to child's eyes, this will clearly tell him, you are paying close attention to him conscientiously.

middot; Love unconditionally

Let child know no matter he goodlooking or not, health or not, parents will love him, this will be the best soil that child's self-confidence will be grown. As parents, should love for children generously, embrace him, kiss him more. While helping him to correct a certain mistake, tell him understanding, it is unacceptable that you are his behavior, instead of him.

middot; Certainly good behavior

Everybody will experience since others' certainly obtaining positive emotion, so, parents should try hard to praise children for doing the right thing in one day more every day. While praising children, must be concrete. Concrete and tangible praise language, will make children produce the fulfillment, improve self-confidence, meanwhile, let too is right what he know how to do.

middot; Give children a right to choose

While choosing for children, had better let him make the decision in two kinds of choices, for example, it is still the trousers of stripe to wear the overalls; It is still aquarelle,etc. to draw the hard stroke of a Chinese character. Because if does not limit, the child will often make uncountable choices. Child decide for oneself, gain, set up self-confident chance again and again too in each. When one's own judgement gets definitely, the child's self-assessment will be improved greatly too.

middot; Support child's healthy and safe risk taking behavior

Support children to explore the fresh things in safe condition, try various experiences. Though risk taking behavior these have numerous failure, but go, try, forever can succeed. In the face of failure of child, parents if can own ldquo; Help and protect the child rdquo; Hope and child finish not finding by equalization pointing between needs adventurous, be helped child not to be set up by good ego consciousness.

middot; Encourage

The encouragement is a kind of behavior approved, but not merely to the reward scored achievements. It means, though the child throws a dish of food on the ground when learning to use the tableware, you are smiling to support him; Though the child has leaked many words while learning to sing a song, you will give him a deep embracing hellip; hellip;

middot; Allow the mistake to happen

Give children a right to choose and encouragement child to take risks, will undoubtedly make children often make some mistakes. In fact, these make a mistake to experience, it is the child that establishes required course of self-confidence too. When the child makes a mistake, parents mustn't blame unscrupulously, but should help him to find out and correct the wrong method. Neither will injure the child's self-respect, but also will make him understand, it is a very easy thing to accept and correct the mistake like this.

middot; Success for child puts up a ladder

It is apt to wear the clothes apt to take off to buy for children; Can make to prepare one in his place enough, show his book and toy hellip; hellip; All these things, create the chance to meet oneself's needs for child, not merely help to train the child's independence, will also let him produce ldquo; Own thing can make rdquo by oneself; Sense of pride.

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