How does the love go on after getting married

How does the love go on after getting married
It leads along by hand to be valuable, boundless and indistinct sea of faces, sight penetrate all passerby, lock in wait for on the the people of you, after leading along by hand? What is needed to say? What is needed to do? Hold the sub hands, live together to a ripe old age with the son? Still ?
Causality with cold and inert emotion
Have discovered to? The feeling of the love, always feel very happy at the beginning, always think that accompany alone more, help you to share alone more.
You were no longer lonely at last, someone was thinking of you, longing for you at least, no matter what does it do, so long as can together, it is good.
But slowly, the deeper with mutual understanding, you begin to find the other side's shortcoming, then one problem happens connecting one, you begin to be irritated, tired, even want to escape, someone says that is picking up the stone, always want to find one suitably in just as the love, but how do you know when to find? She suits you, then do you suit her again?
In fact, the love is just as rubing the stone, while perhaps just finding, you were not the satisfaction, unless but remember it is on people it is flexible, be can changed a lot of thing,so long as you intentionally, there is courage, instead of picking up the unknown stone everywhere, the ones that it would be better well waste the stone that oneself has bright and rub, do you begin to rub?
A lot of people thought because the emotion was light, people will become lazy.
Vigorous love, need to be solicitous to irrigate, can never be lazy!
In some occasion that have a dinner party, someone suggest, eat more shrimp-roe to in good health, a middle aged man suddenly said " ten years ago, when my wife is still my girlfriends at this time, she said she ate ten shrimps, I shell 20 to give to her! Now, if she wants me to help her to shell shrimp's shell, joke! I have evened have no interests to help her to undress, shell shrimp's shell! "
Have heard? Have understood? No wonder more and more people only want to discuss the love all one's life, but unwilling to enter into the marriage slowly. Because the marriage is apt to let people become lazy.
If everybody does not bother to speak, not bother to listen attentively to, not bother to make pleasant surprise, not bother to show consideration for gently, then couple or between the lover, how could go far gradually more and more silent?
So please remember: Vigorous love, to need not moderately solicitous to irrigate, fall in love, can lazy oh still more!
Fault! In fact people are conquered by inertia first, so the emotion will turn light.
The love needs tolerant and good psychology
There are a pair of lovers, make an appointment and come off duty, have a dinner, go shopping, but the girl delays because of company's meeting, when she arrived in spite of the rain already late for more than 30 minutes, it is said that his boyfriend was very unhappy: "You, each time so, I no mood, I afterwards again will wait for you now! " In a flash, the girl breached a dyke at last to collapse, she was thinking in the heart: Perhaps, they had no future again.
The same one is in the same place, another pair of lovers faces the same situation too; The girl has come late for half an hour too while arriving, his boyfriend says: "You must be kept very busy, I suppose! " Then he wipes the rainwater on the face away for the girl, and remove overcoats to cover on girl's body, at this moment, the girl shed tears. But the tears flowing through her cheek are warm.
Have you realized? In fact like, hate often just during our reading!
Not only it takes to know how to be even more more tolerantly in time in the love, a lot of things may just lie in the transition of your mental state! Understand? As individual falls in love with you, and you think he is good. That does not represent you will choose him.
We always say: "I want to look for a person who you like loving very much very much, the love that you did not talk. " Ask you as the other side whether how can be regarded as, like very much like, very much, you can't answer he, because you yourself do not know either.
Quite right, we always thought, we will find a person liking loving very much very much oneself. But later, as we turned one's head suddenly, we will discover how innocent oneself was once. Begin never, how know oneself can love and love that person very much very you? In fact, the feeling liked liking very much very much, will find after going through a lot of things. Perhaps everybody hopes to find the a hundred per cent companion in one's own mind, but you think " will someone pay to you for a long time quietly already at your side, just have not you discovered? "
So, to see the person around carefully! Perhaps he has already waited for you for a long time! When you loved a person, the love absolutely reached eight fen just now well. All expectation and hope is seven or eight fen; Two or three fen is used for loving oneself. If you still continue more love, will possibly give the other side a heavy pressure, let, gasp for breath each other, lose fun of love totally.
So please remember, it is drunk that don't drink over six fen, it don't be full to have a meal over seven fen, love one don't if you too perplexed for love over eight, following passage these can give you some enlightenment perhaps:
Love a person, will understand, should open and solve too;
Apologize, should express one's gratitude and admit a fault too, should correct one's mistakes and show consideration for too;
To accept to also show understanding, but not it is tolerant to stand, it is to stand but not connive at, but not it is the condolence to control, but not interrogate and pour out, but not it is unforgettable to accuse, but not forget and is exchanged by each other, but not everything is explained prayed for quietly for the other side, but not to a great deal of requirements of the other side;
Can with romantic, don't waste, lead along by hand at will, go all out at will.
Editorial afterword: "Because of loving your love, because your dream of dream Take you by hand, lead, come, move together generation. " Thin hands are led, the ones that were led are a period of pure years; Vertical hands were put, it was the love all one's life that was put down. If you really like, then, stretch out hands, lead a section of love without end, lead an eternal true love.
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