The cash gift of marriage increases accordingly " After 80 " R Students suffer from neurosis of the invitation card

The cash gift of marriage increases accordingly " After 80 " R Students suffer from neurosis of the invitation card
Participated in classmates' wedding, actually it was a thing making the person glad. But with " After 80 " R The increasing accordingly of the arrival of marriage boom and cash gift, some are still study at school " After 80 " R Students, in the face of wedding invitation card which classmates sent, besides blessing from the depths of one's heart, the helplessness sum of another face " L The fear " . The social scholar thinks, pursue the wedding blindly " L The great ostentation and extravagance " " High-grade " ,Unrealistically compare the amount of the cash gift, such a wedding has already lost flavour in fact, it is extremely apt to dilute the beautiful friendship among classmates.
From countryside " After 80 " : Not bad emotion, the money of difference
" L Cash gift can't " R Write out an IOU " L, can't grant the loan, can't be in arrears with, it is a piece of a debt of gratitude that must be repaid on time behind every invitation card. See to ask card classmate each time, I begin arrangement to calculate cash gift, lay out the budget of the cash gift ahead of time. " Born in the intersection of Shandong and the intersection of Linyi and the intersection of city and countryside, pour out one's woes to the reporter holding the invitation card in hands the intersection of Tianjin and one roc Zhai that university pursue the master degree.
" After 80 " Zhai Peng recent frequent between classmate and the friend's wedding " Go to the village fair " . In nearly one month, he has already received 4 invitation cards, the mere cash gift needs 700 yuan, reach the nonlocal classmate by train sometimes " L Boost " ,Travelling expenses must be getting one's own too. " Receive the invitation card, I am very glad, it means our classmate has good relation. But I am still studying, without fixed economic income, the expenses of the cash gift really go beyond my endurance. " He says.
Zhai Peng tells reporters, oneself is a person paying attentioon to friendship, the friend gets married to always say, though there is little cash gift taken out each time, 100 yuan or 200 yuan, this is one's own maximum ability, especially the student of marriage gets together over the recent one years, the cash gift taking care of the pence,and the pounds will take care of themselves is a big number. The friend gets married, it is worried to bring to oneself too while sending the blessing, mainly economic upward pressure is too great. " L Frequent " R Come to attack " L Invitation card let me not had pastry of god getting more peaceful of,it is will ask subconsciously to receive sometimes by telephones of classmate unmarried, going to marry? "
The economic condition of Zhai Peng family is not good, his tuition is paid by student loans so far. In order to gather together enough the cash gift, he has to increase the number of times of doing the tutor. In the first half of 2009, will do family education for more than 8 hours each day when at most. Zhai Peng has ever done a family education of amounting to 60 yuan in 4 hours, though the market conditions far lower than 30 yuan on average per hour, but because of the the intersection of family education and every week the intersection of job and 5, and long-term family education, insist on, come down too for steady economic the intersection of income and roc Zhai the job.
Zhai Peng says worriedly : " Make to a tutor and account for a big chunk and study time, but this is the only way that can earn money now. I do not plan to come back home to spend the Spring Festival either this winter vacation, the family education expenses are relatively high in this period of time, save up more money at this time, reply may come at any time " L The money of one's share " L . "
The city " After 80 " : Toughen one's scalp to keep up with working clan
The born in Daqing of Heilongjiang Province Song pearl is a typical urban girl, though the family circumstances are superior, face the marriage invitation card coming again and again, she produced the frightened psychology. She shows reporter a small note one, is recording the cash gift of every sum of weddings of 2009 above: 10 days of October, university classmates get married, 200 yuan; 23 days of October, high medium and small Zheng gets married, 500 yuan; 12 days of November, the cousin gets married, 500 yuan
" Though is still students, for not losing face, generally speaking, the standard which consults working clan of no matter how little cash gift. " Song MingZhu says, undergraduate courses of classmates of a lot of universities work after graduating from, choose to pursue the master degree by oneself. Whenever classmates get married, if the student who has already gone to work has taken the cash gift of 500 yuan, know too by oneself " L Puff oneself up to one's own cost " ,Toughen one's scalp to keep up with working clan.
Song MingZhu tells reporters, one's own monthly living cost is basically fixed, it is about 1300 yuans too to be average. If there are two parts in one month The cash gift of 500 yuan is certainly too much to bear . Not only some can't be bought to can buy the thing not bought, upset the life plan yet, if the cash gift have no whereabouts reach the wedding run, must stretch out one's hand to the family " L Require assistance " ,Or let the friend give material assistance to it, repay later.
It tell by reporter for to imprison to Harbin normal university Master degree candidate,for " L The money of one's share " R Pressure,friend on some is general relation get married, be be be be may participate in. If go to participate in the wedding, " L The money of one's share " R Few and large unable to bear presentable, can only look for various reasons to evade, have hidden from it.
MingZhu Song say oneself try, give cash gift either, buy, come, express compliment of friend by some souvenir helpless, according to having a general price standard to drift apart the near relation in person in the heart when buying the present, always feel that if takes little by oneself, some are not terrific. " The cash gift does not represent the emotion, but the depth of the emotion is really weighed by cash gift to a certain extent. "
Mo lets " L The cash gift " R Unrealistically compare and dilute classmates friendship
In the face of the one that produce because with the gift " L Joyous " R Bear, some are at school " After 80 " R Students suffer unspeakably. The social scholar thinks, Chinese nation recommends " L Pay a man back in his own coin " ,But propose at the same time " L The friendship between gentleman appears indifferent but is pure like water " . Paying a man back in his own coin should not pay close attention to " L The cash gift " R Amount,even more should value " L The cash gift " R Emotion and blessing expressed, the gift is trifling but the feeling is profound.
The Northeast the intersection of Forestry University and information and computer project the intersection of institute and Mr. yellow to attain, think, one of the functions of the wedding is to tell relatives and friends share the happiness, relatives and friends can express blessings to the rookie through the ceremony of the wedding too. The wedding should be frugal, the wedding party should not have motive of collecting the great amount of cash gift either. The increasingly many wedding is pursued now " L The great ostentation and extravagance " " High-grade " ,And the cash gift increases accordingly under this kind of atmosphere of unrealisticallying compare each other, such a wedding has already lost flavour in fact.
Social work and social policy of management college of Chou En-lai government of Nankai University are that professor Chen ZhongLin says, young working clan will get married in often in work one or two years " Get together " R Phenomenon. Because of working long hours, there are less savings, in addition, young people's social circle is big, treat with courtesy relatively more, concerned about face-saving, wedding of making" L The money of one's share " R Marked price constant rise," L The money of one's share " R The burden is heavier and heavier.
Chen ZhongLin says, " 80" Students take only-child as the core, is the colony that a relatively active, innovative consciousness of thinking is stronger. If in the wedding simply" L The money of one's share " R On unrealistically compare,not only on convention of falling into, but also it is shoulder not heavy not to last oneself and family " L The debt of cash gift " ,Bring a big added burden to family. It propose choose more wedding of innovating young people of era, it avoid in " L The money of one's share " R Have and unrealistically compare each other, in case that classmates, the beautiful friendship between the colleagues are lost flavour " The money of one's share " R Dilute.
The social scholar proposes, have a honeymoon trip, the collective wedding ceremony is good choices, or hold the small marriage ceremony, and then release the news of getting married out through cellphones beepers such as the mobile phone, network,etc., let the friends share the happiness of marriage together. Not only can let the wedding be more meaningful like this but also can also check " L The cash gift " R Give the abnormal atmosphere much. (Reporter Sun YingWei, in charge of building the great wave )
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