The ones that stop the good method treatment of the love and fail in love revive after death redly!

The ones that stop the good method treatment of the love and fail in love revive after death redly!
Not long ago, a news spread in Beijing No 1 Intermediate People's Court: Some of officers of schoolboy 24 years old of a first-class medical university of our country in Beijing succeed because of the love, deprive others' life on purpose, cause one death and one wound, is sentenced to death ... Background: Some officer, and former girl friend that murder their the classmate in pieces of some, two people began to fall in love in the spring of 1995, begin to often quarrel over some meaningless minor matters half a year later, some of one proposes saying good-bye several times, and some of officers, each time in order to threaten to demand to continue keeping the relation. The end of 96, Zhang Wei and officer one greeting be gone out as classmate,it follow to some officers chase to if you can't come up, if you can't nip, live in neck to drag by roadside to, fortunately save and can escape danger in time by classmates. This time, with the help of classmates and the teacher, some of officers guaranteed not to pester one to the school again at last. In one early morning in February of 1997, have just murdered from one that freed out in that section of painful emotions in the laboratory cruelly by some of officers, another classmate who Wen Xun went to save is wounded by some of officers too. Perspect: The love is beautiful, but as a love has walked it at the end, how both sides ever in love dissolve the contradictory, peace to say good-bye, how to regulate one's own psychology after failing in love, how the person around helps both sides of the love to extricate oneself from a predicament, these are questions on the emotion, it is an intellectual, technical question. Here, some questions that we involve to tragedy of this scene carry on the psychoanalysis, offer some to everybody " Technically " Help. First, how to cut off the love when you find the other side is not one's own ideal lover, certainly put forward the requirement of cutting off the love. But even enough reason cuts off the love, should pay attention to the way, should be sincere while falling in love, sincere too while proposing cutting off the love, put forward the method to cut off love and is mainly the following three: 1, Speak face to face, adopting this way needs to pay attention to: **Unless which choose appropriate for place, it such as have fiery and forthright personality at the other side, possessiveness is strong,must a remote place. **Affirm the other side to one's own love and care while falling in love at first, otherwise the method substantially as taking and is cursed, rambled, will evoke the other side's hatred, will enable the intensification of contradictions. **Must guard against indecisively, leave illusion for the other side, that is torment to the other side, also will leave oneself the hidden danger, so-called " Fail to make a decision when one should, it is messy to receive it instead" . This is particularly important. What time can some of one of girl in the hereinbefore notice the above while proposing cutting off the love Perhaps the settlement of the thing is helpful. 2,Express the attitude through the letter. This method has larger buffer leeway, the word can be more calm, more proper too. 3,Seek the intermediary's help, adopting this way needs to pay attention to: **The intermediary is what the other side knows, understands too, it would be best if the other side trust the person that respected very muches, can take advantage of a situation correctly it carries on convincing by patient analysis, comfort. **The feeling made sure not to cause to the other side is the dignity that you are damaging him everywhere, his reputation of corruption. Second, what psychology and behavioral the intersection of characteristic and persons who fail in love because of losing love of the other side does it have after fail in love, other emotions can't be substituted, will produce extreme desperate sense, feeling of loneliness and nihility sense. At dangerous moment here, the persons who fail in love often have the following bad psychology and behavioral characteristic: 1, Suicide. Various negative disposition thread such as feeling self-humiliation, pessimistic, world-weary, inanition, shame, repenting of the persons who fail in love are strong extremely, want to get rid of psychological load, will result in committing suicide. 2,Revenge. This is a kind of more commonly giving vent to the means, it is the vindictive psychology that the extreme possessiveness suffers setbacks and arouses. 3,Depressed. It is mainly shown as: Anxious, cold and detached, painful, decadent,etc., the serious one causes schizophrenia. Some officers in the hereinbefore are typical vindictive psychology, he uses most some of extreme giving vent to the means one is murdered. Third, psychology how carry on fail in love, it transfers right agony that fails in love to be deep and violent, in order to make oneself shake off from the agony of failing in love out as soon as possible, it is balanced and keeping the psychological health to resume psychology, should pay attention to the following several points after failing in love: 1, Overcome " love the highest " View. The love is important, but it is not all of the life, there are undertaking, kindred and friendship in life. 2,Carry on the transformation of the environment. Change pieces of environment at once fail in love, scene, thing, people isolate unexpectedly with can touch whom the intersection of love and agony remember temporarily, can yet be regarded as the wise move. 3,Shift the emotion **Think from the view of the other side: If I run into such a lover, has made such fault, can I tolerate? From feeling guilty, hating by oneself to swear to correct the shortcoming, seek the new love with the brand-new attitude. **If because the other side changeable abandoning the old for the new and swimming skill raise spend and other the intersection of passivism and mood and you break with, you might as well think so: Since so to me at the time of the love, what kind is not notified after getting married? **Hold " where there is no fragrant grass ends of the earth " Faith,the ones real lover in order to seeking you. 4,Mostly the other side, according to thinking about. Since the other side feels happier like this, let him leave you. Otherwise, two people's life, someone feels unhappy, such life is neither happy, unstable.

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