The spiritual doctor warns that Christmas Day brings the spiritual agony to somebody

The spiritual doctor warns that Christmas Day brings the spiritual agony to somebody
Christmas Day is the greatest festival in a lot of western countries, people are all busy buying festival gifts before Christmas Day coming, collect the souvenir on Christmas. Interspersing colorful ornaments everywhere in the streets and lanes, people are full of beautiful moving to and fro scene and imagination to Christmas Day, Christmas Day will often bring the bright memory of childhood to people. But the experts think, a lot of people should go to have a look at a psychologist at this time, because a lot of internal crises probably break out at this time. In this season, people's expectations are often all too high, is all only a kind of daydream, the reality is often not so good as their expectancy. The happiness, romantic and imagining all too fragile on Christmas Day, as people pile up the tense and envy of others in one year and envy the time woken up again, these beautiful pictures are too easy to be been smashed into pieces. Some the intersection of psychotherapy and doctor and the intersection of Britain and spirit cure member of SCTE present danger deliver one report on Christmas Day already. They think, these idealized scenes on Christmas Day come from the works of Dickens or some other writers in the past, actual life not in accordance with modern. They depict Christmas Day as the illusion full of comfortable, table delicacies, beverage and candle. These pictures are permeated with making warm and atmosphere of relatives and friends' reunion, even grimmest person can arouse the feeling like children. But when reaching hope and expectancy of the persons who revel in celebration in festival, the feeling that vanish into thin air want, go beyond Christmas fully up to expectations the intersection of branch and the intersection of end and minor details at the banquet - like the person present far, someone has sat etc. by anyone. Those persons who is unsatisfied will think that not getting everybody, the cares about, have it the isolated feeling. It is to finalize the design at childhood age that Christmas Day way passes, not merely have a Christmas tree which is covered with the ornament, and the family that has old times remembers --The majority is bright, but some will include the unpleasant composition too. The religious meaning of Christmas Day has already been desalinized over the past 50 years. With the reduction of symbolic meaning that Christ was born, people's bright expectation and composition of the family were more and more. In addition, Christmas Day is an arduous job to housewife, if she thinks it that she has worried about in festival over the past several weeks it is a failure finally --Either because the turkey bakes pasting, or because the children feel disappointed, or the contradiction between relatives and friends makes the dining table turns into a battle field on Christmas --The sense that they feel apologetic, will feel disappointed in several months in a row. Then, how to lighten these inevitable pressures, make it unlikely to become a kind of agony? The first rule that psychotherapy doctors propose is, the adult participating in banquet of any Christmas don't have too many expectations, and remember that this day belongs to the children. Much less, the especially demanding of each child must be considered alone. The most important thing is, care, greet while being both present and, don't let people suspicious of, have, partial to. Christmas Day is the climax in one year to children, they will look forward to the arrival of festival in several weeks in a row, and will be for leaving the deep impression in the future of him this day. The second must accept such a fact, the main purpose of Christmas Day is not to let everyone pass for a perfect Christmas Day, but organize a festival participated in by everybody. During this period, the space will often seem very tense, everybody's participation needs the space. Inviting the friend will join and relax the tense atmosphere in the family. Christmas Day is a difficult period to the person who has just there has been funeral arrangements in those families, they need special treatment, in addition there are those persons without relative. Let them merge in, can make them experience the warmth of the family. Last, it should be appropriate to drink, don't be too much, not too few either.

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