Spiritual extramarital affair: A terrible undercurrent
About the extramarital affair, it has been a hot issue in the society all the time, and mostly mean that that kind of the sexual relations happen. And the spiritual extramarital affair is often ignored by the society. The spiritual extramarital affair is different from the general extramarital affair taking sexual relations as content, it happen in the knowledge stratum more. These " polite people " In view of the face, reputation, position and existing family stability respect, in addition ethical selfdiscipline, keep this kind of requirement confined within the experience that is only the emotion. Then the spiritual extramarital affair is often forgiven by the society. Now enumerate three, contrast the thing in our life, you will find our society, there are really many situations of the spiritual extramarital affair. After that large-scale state-run enterprise goes bankrupt, Wang QiuYun enters this Chinese-foreign joint large-scale advertising agency according to one's own capability. Not only suit to one's training but also very suitable for her individual character. According to eloquence, feature, social ability, she pulls to the advertising business of 580,000 in less than one year, it is very considerable too to deduct a percentage oneself. As to present Wang QiuYun, she thought she is not working for the money. The appreciation that the department is in charge of Shi Gang is the important motive force that she works, she is vigorous, just like numerous women of exceptional talent and ability, are always concerning about " a business of work " ,"Business - -The work " ,There is little attention of the Gu 's. Shi Gang is a very charming man, handsome, and characteristically brilliant. The female employee of the company has a certain fuzzy meaning very to him. Such as history being just a little kinder to so-and-so, other ladies will all feel lost. From behind that second-class talk, a certain feeling of Wang QiuYun is a weight deep. One day, she suddenly found that came into the company, if can not see the just figure of the history, her mood will be low immediately, can't mention spirit comes, always thinking " where he goes " ,Not in order to always ask about. And Shi Gang in in,autumn such as king getting in high more spirit in musical sound,animated. Just the history just showed special good opinion out to Wang QiuYun too, but not merely appreciated. Gradual, two people's exchange becomes unusual. Can have a chat on 3 or two hours even sometimes in case of not had the main topic at all, time passed by unconsciously. The content often involves a great deal of personal secrets such as some personal feelings, family life, nearly reach the stage of talking about everything under the sun. Atmosphere that associate warm to lack, solemnly, lack, respect, excited to lack reason intimately, there is taste of a kind of first love very much. But none of them plan, move towards deep stage, at least rational to tell they in this way, keep this kind of state at present at least. Because both sides have warm families, love one's own husband, wife deeply, it injures them that they are all unwilling to go, but unable to forget this kind of feeling. Xiao Zhang is a young and promising attending surgeon of one hospital, he has a happy family. The wife is a business personnel of one company, the son has been already 6 years old too. Husband and wife, for one's own work, it is few and free to see the film, go shopping together at ordinary times. Go home the last two people are busy doing washing again, cook, look after the son, seldom have an opportunity to exchange the emotion together alone too. Mei Qing is nurse of the inpatient area Xiao Zhang, looks attractive. She persons of sailor in husband, head out twice every year, at home most of the time. I wonder when to begin, Xiao Zhang and plum are blue and green to find each other yes a kind of special feeling. Two people have innermost thoughts and feelings that can not be finished talking about together. Like Xiao Zhang that joke, laugh heartily bantering Mei Qing always. Mei Qing often pats him two times carelessly too. With the increase exposed to the number of times, the aggravation of the excited intensity of heart, two people had some very intimate expressions at last, if go out to dance alone, sing the Karaoka disc, or take a walk in the park, but not developed into that last step all the time - -The sexual relations happen. Two people have been keeping this kind having a sentimental attachment for each other all the time, has not " derailed " Dubious relationship. The slight snow is a charming and magnanimous woman, read a lot of books, have one's own original understanding as to the marriage. The newest scientific findings show, it is the people's natural instinct to abandon the old for the new. The time of the special feeling between men and women is only five years. Similar view, she sees that can absorb in and live and learn to use flexibly. She begins to implement one half a year ago " Leave somebody at large the better to apprehend him " Tactics, husband "set free " Go out, let him " experience fresh air " ,So as to ensure the family " The rivers and mountains are firm forever " . The principle is, so long as only head. She thinks if a husband simply " Fasten on the trousers belt " ,The family life will be dull and dreary, the marriage relation will be more and more dangerous, it would be better " A horse of his put " . Then she does not oppose the husband hands over to opposite sex's friend, she can hold he and opposite sex to have normal emotions to associate. She knows what's what in the heart too at the same time, the husband can not walk too far. Since the husband knows dawn phoenixes, the slight snow finds they get along well very much. Their contacts are very natural, very close too, the best joint point that it seems to find one's feet. The phoenix is a good friend of the slight snow, elder sister several years older, true than the husband dawn, the appearance can only be general, but woman's flavor is sheer. The slight snow knows the background to the dawn phoenix, rest assured about her very much. She is that kind of open and easy woman that can also tighten up, though like happening people's social life very much, but will never act foolishly. One day, the phoenix goes to the dance hall the dawn with about of husbands of slight snow, drank tea for a moment in the dance hall, the slight snow looks for a reason to go home. The following is that the husband was explained to slight snow later. After the slight snow has left, the phoenix feels strange dawn. The husband chooses and speaks frankly to her: "I tell my wife, I and seeming to have innate mutual affection natural to various types of human relationship between you, the wife brings us together in this place apt to make the mutual affection natural to various types of human relationship strengthen. " "Is she sick? " The phoenix asks in surprise dawn. The husband smiles: "What diseases does she have? " "That is that you are sick, or your couple are sick. Anyway I feel now you two are a little abnormal. Whose your couple of picture, the wife helps the husband to look for the lover. " Smiles that the husband is bitter: "Your words are basically right, but gang up that is to my raising. I think I conduct oneself freely and easily magnanimously, but far short of what is more expected than my wife. Talk about disease, I make, understand it is we that sick couple have, or we have no disease all the time, the people in the world are not very normal. " "What kind of purpose do you want to achieve? If you think I am that kind of woman letting persons profit easily, then you look down upon me. " The phoenix speaks easily in the mouth dawn, but facial expression is much more vivid quickly. The husband is amused by the frankness of the phoenix of dawn, the sound can't help being getting soft: "I have never thought of getting you. If I should have this kind of idea, my wife will not do so either. But I can not say either What a kind of mood is oneself. However, my present mood is very good, and you? " " the same! " The phoenix stretches out arms saying dawn, then they screw the dance floor into together. Associate after the some time, husband to be frank finally: "I though unlikely to fall in love with she, it feels to be very much glad on the heart while being with her. " Then the slight snow is sent some enlightening remarks: "Compared with lover, the lover is the most beautiful forever; Compared with lover, the lover is the happiest forever. You have had a beautiful lover and also have happy lovers now, should be content with one's lot? " Phoenixes are nearly two years dawn that the husband knows. Under the guide of the slight snow, they have become very good friends. Whenever the husband feels mood agitation or mind is not good, the slight snow reminds him: "Go to look for dawn phoenixes and have a chat. " Their friendship is deep and pure, the this slight snow is sure and does not doubt. Actually the husband had unsociable and eccentric disposition, lived a secluded life, had even indulged in self-admiration sometimes. As to the modern man, perhaps this is a kind of bad psychology. He has this opposite sex's love now, he becomes optimistic and optimistic gradually, the passion is quick-witted and getting optimistic. Why such spiritual extramarital affair appears to prevent the spiritual extramarital affair? We know, people all have one kind to look for novelty and ask the different psychology. A kind of experience does not change for a long time, will feel dull, has been familiar with, used to transferring to indifferently gradually, on repugnant even, it affords to become to be can being bored every time like one delicious food. At this moment, attention is very easy and is attracted by other novel goals, even looking for the new goal voluntarily simply. It is like this too to display in the family. It is the special stage of life style after the couple really understand and confirm in a few years after marriage. The sufficient shows of the pluses and minuses among couple, the contact of the individual character is more abundant, the antenuptial expectation does not correspond to actual life after marriage All these things, make it extremely apt to cause the contradiction among couple. There are husband and wife together from morning to night, just it is very difficult to have novel and wonderful senses. So, besides a few couple, that kind of exciting love composition between most couple has been already few. Though the spiritual extramarital affair is not as great as to generally the threat to the family of the extramarital affair of the sexual relations takes place, but will bring certain influence to couple's emotion. Moreover, spiritual the love and happen between the sexual relations it is only one step away. For prevent the occurrence of spiritual extramarital affair, until he (she) From " rival in love " Take back in the hand, carry on to transfer right emotion while being necessary between the couple. Fully cooperate, keep harmonious. A lot of people hope one's own spouse have the same taste with oneself. Otherwise will be very disappointed and lonely. In fact you might as well remind oneself, both sides' different hobbies can make marriage life adopt more more colourfully. For example husband like social activity, too can help you to be wide to make friends; Or the wife likes amusement, can encourage the husband to participate in together. Don't forget the happy time of the past! A psychologist of U.S.A. points out, if you often cherish the memory of the romantic time in the past with the husband, you will be with getting along equally at the time of the love too. The thing liking being done when you can do some loves, such as seeing the film, dancing, singing the Karaoka disc; Leave some more for time and have a heart-to-heart talk, read the photo album together, meet and send off etc. on and off duty. Become a good audience. It is a most common reason for a lot of contradictions after marriage of couple not to like listening to the other side. Let the spouse know you are listening to the words he said, even if you disagree with his view, also can make him feel your knowledge of he and attention. So whenever he pours out, you might as well notice some, even turn off the looking at machine or the work in the handle is put down temporarily. Understand more. Often exchange. A couple say, receive others' influence, begin to treat the other side with the eyes denied after marriage, make conjugal relation sink into awkward situation. And when they try to understand each other, the marriage crisis is just relieved, have saved a family about to break. Often exchange the thought among couple, communicate with each other, will hold house work together and will contribute to causing a kind of intimate sense, put down discontented mood, dispel estrangement. Let life often have feeling of freshness, ordinary life makes every day's action seem unalterable. But might as well do a few changes when everybody feels oppressive, lose romantic, warm breath. For example come back home to cook every night and think dry as dustly, can go to the hotel to scoop up once in a while; Send the child to grandmother's home on weekend, couple enjoy two people's world, go to see a film or go shopping to do shopping etc.. On some special days such as the lover's birthdays, getting married on commemoration day, Valentine's Day etc., give one flower or send one can express exquisite card of heartfelt wishes, will get married the intersection of relation by marriage and life add one romance, a silk is warm. A kind of person thinks one-sidedly that it is the people's natural instinct to abandon the old for the new, in order to maintain one's own marriage current situation, take the way to leave somebody at large the better to apprehend him instead, just like " example three " Like that. He (she) Think so,will become spouse optimistic,live more getting more actively at wedding. This kind of people is not rare in life. Though he (she) Have by its reason too, play with fire method but in any case. Want, remember spiritual extramarital affair with take place sexual relations and with break-up of marriage, it is in fact only one step away, only store the momentary slip in other words. " family's cosmetology and health " Yu Jin Zhou Jie
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